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i live in a cute little neighborhood. a neighborhood of similarly designed homes. where all the doors are painted the same shades, and the minivans and suvs line the drives. mailboxes all match. where sidewalks are chalked regularly.

a neighborhood where bland reigns supreme, take it or leave it – it is what it is here in the ‘bury.  (a far cry from the ghetto livin’ of my old stomping grounds where “diversity” was beyond diverse and a 100 yr old house earns the right to be painted “aquafresh toothpaste”.)

here…neighbors maintain their lawns and landscapes. neighbors take their trash bins out on tuesday night and retreive them wednesday morning.  we water our lawns on our designated days. our backyards all contain the same inflatable swimming pool, wooden swingset or powerwheel (that has been passed down from neighbor to neighbor, friend to friend). here is a rural suburbia… where you are just as likely to run into your neighbor at the grocer as you are to run into them in your yard. everyone knows everyone knows everyone.

basketball hoops belong to the cul-de-sac kids and the “village elders”  and parents of wee-ones shake their fists at the high school boys who see 25 mph and go 52 mph out of the neighborhood.  where homecomings and proms bring all the neighbors out to see the girl’s dresses. where babysitters are passed from house to house to house and a garden’s overabundence is shared.

where neighbors gather between houses to talk lawns, and community politics and backyard gardens.  they collect your mail and watch your house while you are away. they share hand me downs when their kids outgrow soccer shoes and halloween costumes.

my dream house was my dream house – a 100 years old, big, beautiful, the house didn’t need decorations – the character spoke for itself.   my dream house was NOT in my dream neighborhood. where chick fights would wake my husband and i from a deep sleep, where red and blue lights frequently filled our “pottery barn” perfect interior late at night and where the weekend evening’s entertainment was nothing more than a bottle of wine and a 12-pack of beer on the 3-season front porch. the crazies kept us very entertained… however, it wasn’t a place to raise a family. 

while i can’t say that this neighborhood is my dream neighborhood – i can say that i’m blessed with some great neighbors (and a not so great neighbor – who doesn’t mow their lawn, pick up their dog doo, and has the obnoxious child who flies like a bat out of hell the minute the kids and I come out to enjoy the nice weather -some have gay-dar… i have whitetrash-dar) i can say that this is the kind of neighborhood i love having my children in.  (i can also say that i have been pricing out 6foot privacy walls at home depot to put along our back property line)

yes – our lawn gets scalped by our one set of neighbors on a weekly basis…and yes, my husband and i have been spending evenings discussing how to politely tell them to stop scalping our lawn or else… but, this neighborhood is safe and friendly, and if i need a cup of sugar, break my toe and need crutches  or my neighbor whips up something tasty… i know that i can count on people to come through. i know that a playdate or an emergency momma-sitter is merely a street away. i can count on a snowblower clearing my drive even before i get our snowblower out and started (what?!?! snow?!?! who’s talking about snow already?!)

they say home is where the heart is – and this home’s got some heart… someday, i’ll combine the dream house and the dream neighborhood (or lack thereof)… luckily i know that the time spent here in the ‘hood has provided our family with some of the greatest friends in the whole wide ‘hood… and for that… we’re blessed!

so where do you live… and is it your dream house in your dream neighborhood? what makes it that way, what would you change…


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i use to think it was important to have too many friends to count…because, as thinking goes, the more friends, the more popular, right? thus – the more popular, the more friends… and the circle goes on and on…popular-friends-friends-popular… then i put on my big girl panties and turned 31 and realized that that’s not true.  it’s not the quantity of friends – it’s really the quality. that being said – in order to have a friend – you must be that friend…

However. while driving the littles from point A to point B this week, and actually listening to something on the radio besides “their” music… i heard a conversation on-air about the 10 friends you should have before you turn 30 (ok – give or take a year)… I thought this was soooo interesting.  But totally got the concept…

According to the station – these are the 10 friends i MUST have… (I have a few changes to this list though…)

1. The Style Guru –  i totally look to my friend C.Y. for this one.  She’s so fun and funky and adorable. Just the other day I saw her at the bus stop, sporting some purple tights and an adorable grey t-shirt tunic… and i thought – LOVE IT…MUST HAVE PURPLE TIGHTS… her spirit and sense of style are such a breath of fresh air.  She’s also the momma of 4 kids … and she still finds the time to look fabulous… in purple tights…

2. The Mr./Ms. Fix-it – (my change: the Martha Stewart-esque Friend) – Totally, totally my friend A.H.  She’s just so clever. She decorates for holidays like St. Patricks day. She concocts the most adorable things for her kids to do on a rainy day. I know I can always count on her for some great idea … and a good laugh.

3. The Good-Time Gal –   probably the friend who has known me the longest is my friend J.D. While babies and little ones and moves and other “things” have kept us from having those “good-times”  like we use to have– i know that with J. the minute we get together the fun will happen -even if it’s just camping out on the couch with a bottle of wine and a brick of cheese.  We’ve known each other since  7th grade choir (and anyone who can still be my friend after hearing me sing…is a good friend – J. on the other hand has the voice of an angel!) and we’ve  been friends since our one true love {Jonathon Brandis, RIP} brought us together in 10th grade biology… we were awkward with big glasses, and weighed in at all of 110 pounds between the two of us. But, together we morphed into who we are today… and the road to get here has been… FUN! (to keep it rated PG and appropriate for family members who read this)

4. The Health Nut – (my change: Foodie Friend) My friend E.M-R is totally this person.  We can not talk for weeks/months…see each other on IM and talk and talk about this chef, that chef, this restaurant, that dish, that recipe, this recipe and throw in a little juicy gossip as well. She’s the person I think of when I try something new and just have to share. She’s got BOH expereience which just always intregies me – (she’s working on a blog…stay tuned, it’s gonna be a good one!)

5. The Ear – most definitely my friend A.K.  I shake when we don’t talk for a day. She’s my person – My “Christina” … she tells it like it is, offers her support, shares a story to make it all better… she stands up for me when I’m beating myself up over something mundane  – or when she sees a total injustice that I’ve just become accustom to.  She’s caring and thoughtful and wonderful and probably deserves some sort of friendship oscar or grammy or nobel peace prize something like that. through thick or thin – A. is ALWAYS reliable. ❤

6. The Do-It-Herselfer  — (DIH seeks DIH for projects, projects and projects. must like centsational girl and home beautiful, no kitchy-crafts. Must love Martha Stewart and fabric swatches, and have an appreciation for a fine piece of paper. Must comment at least once a shopping-outing : “I could so do this”, and have an love-affair obession with etsy.com)

7. The Culture Guru — (I don’t have a go-to-person for all things culture related in my current locale.  I live in a village. With antique shops. And a Pizza Hut. And Sushi that comes from the grocery store. And that’s about it.  The Downtown area is 30 min. away, I’ve never ventured to German Village, or Short North or SoBe or whatever the terminology is.  I desparetly want to do a gallery hop. Wine Tasting. Tapas dinner… if you can be this friend… please rsvp and let me know where we’re headed… if i was in Cleveland, it would so be chef’s widow or ohmommy – I just need a Cbus equivilent.)

8. The Healthcare Professional – totally my friend M.L.  She’s our resident nurse in training and has like 8 more saturdays (b/c that’s how we count down) before she is official.  She’s also my drinking buddy. Which is totally medicinal too, right? 

9. The Legal Adviser (my change: Sister) I cannot not add my sister (J.S.) to this list. While she’s not a legal adviser… she’s my go-to-person for a sounding board.  She is un-judging and knows what I am really feeling/thinking/saying even though I might be saying/feeling/thinking something completely different.  Above all – I’ve always believed that God gave me my sister so I’d always have a Best Friend.  Thus, she’s also my worst enemy.. but eh, take it or leave it.

10. The Travel Buddy – I would have to say that if I had to pick one friend to ALWAYS travel with it would be J.H.  We did a family trip together about a year and a half ago – and it was so much fun. I would go anywhere with J. She is always prepared – beyond prepared – for every situation.  She just KNOWS how to travel. with kids. and a husband. while pregnant or breastfeeding.  We’re totally looking forward to the HH2 trip in like 2 years… we’ve also both promised to NOT be pregnant or nursing.  Not only does J. know how to travel – she knows how to make the most of every moment – be it in her kitchen at home or laying oceanside in HH.  I’m a picky travel companion – so it’s a breath of fresh air to know that J. totally is travel compatible! ❤ 

Disclaimer – I do have a handful of friends who didn’t make the 10 list – but it doesn’t discredit their friendship. They are important in their own special way.  

(an addition…b/c I was really trying to “put” her somewhere and find the right words for her – my most inspirational friend, JB. You can read her family’s story here. She was my first true “village” friend and whenever the hubs and i hang out with her and her hubs – it’s a great night!  Whenever J and I can hang out (like our NKOTB night) it’s so much fun. I like her lots… Which is great because J and I have determined that Little Miss and her son D. are going to go to prom and get married…)

How about you… who are your 10?

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